Starting a chat
Who you can message and how to start a new conversation.
To keep unwanted messages out, direct messaging on Arwy opens with a mutual follow: if you both follow each other, you can chat.
Starting a new chat
- Open Messages from the bottom bar.
- Tap the button in the bottom-right corner to open New chat.
- The list shows your mutual follows; search and pick someone.
You can also open a chat with the Message button on the profile of someone you follow mutually.
Why is the Message button locked?
If the Message button on a profile looks locked, you don't follow each other yet. Tapping it shows You can message each other once you follow one another. Follow them; the moment they follow you back, the button unlocks.
Good to know
- Chats you've already started stay in your Messages list, and you can continue them from there.
- You can't message someone who has blocked you or whom you've blocked.
- You can write to our support account (@arwydestek) without following. You can also reply to any message from our official @arwy account, or email info@arwy.life.
- To talk with several people at once, use chat rooms.
Last updated: 2026-11-03